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Posted by jackie on August 20, 2020August 20, 2020

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Hello Wild Ones🌻🌻🌻

I hope you are good and doing awesome things. My hope is that you are taking time to listen to your feelings. I am currently full of hope and peace.

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You go about life

Making yourself small

Dimming your light

Just in case no one ever says ‘You are too much’

But Your Life is your Birthright

You owe it to yourself to live right

Be your own size

Shine that light

If they say ‘ You are too Much’

It’s on them

Just be you

Beyonce- Bigger

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Hannah Gandhi says:

August 20, 2020 at 11:14 pm

I love this and the message is so important! 💕

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1. jackie says:
  
  August 20, 2020 at 11:58 pm
  
  Thank you💕💕💕
  
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    August 21, 2020 at 12:07 am
    
    It’s always a pleasure 💫✨
    
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