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The Body Series

Hello Wild Ones ๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒท

I hope you are well and that great things are happening for you. My prayer is that you know how awesome you are. I am currently really proud of how awesome I am and the dope things I continue to do.

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Body Series

This series hopes to explore issues that women face when it comes to insecurities about their bodies and societal pressures. (I was going to write just my experience then I realized that that’s just one body type) I hope this style makes sense to y’all. Feel free to go back and read other articles for this series.

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Alien, I don’t know if you were on earth when they declared Bella Hadid the most beautiful woman on earth. Some cosmetic surgeon decided this fact based on the size and position of the eyes, eyebrows, nose, lips, chin, and jaw. Crazy, Right!! Of course, they didn’t measure every single woman on earth. One human being (a man who makes money from unrealistic beauty standards and deep-rooted insecurities in women) decided what was beautiful and then went on to put women on a rank. The list has only one black woman๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš (don’t get me started on race and beauty standards). Alien, can you believe that there is a girl somewhere who wakes up looks in the mirror, and feels that her well-functioning eyes are not good enough because of their color and shape? The world has managed to have a specific type of face that is cute. Maybe let’s talk to women who struggle every day and don’t feel cute.

Small Eyes

Every time I look at the mirror, I see how my eyes fail me. They fail to make me cute. I know it’s weird to say this because my eyes work perfectly but I struggle to love the look of my eyes. If only they just a little bit bigger and rounder. I know how crazy it sounds because an optometrist will say that my eyes are perfect but all I see is a failure from my creator. I have an array of contacts that help create an illusion that my eyes are bigger. I also love to play around with the eye colors (at least this part is fun). I struggle with leaving the house without my contacts.

I see but never enough

Broad Nose

In school, they always asked me if I smelled things miles away. My Nose has always been considered the one thing away from ultimate beauty. They always say ‘ You are cute but that nose ๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš.’ Always too large for my face. In the mirror sometimes all I see is the nose that’s never good enough. Recently I have invested in lots of contour makeup and I feel better now. I hope to get a nose job one day.

I wish just smelling was enough

Big Lips

‘Hey Girl, what those lips do?’ I keep getting this. I am always somewhere between insane about my lips and sometimes I am uncomfortable with their existence. In recent years, I have seen my kind of lips embraced more when Kylie Jenner got her lips done and now most reality Tv girls have lip injections. There are make-up routines to make lips look like mine but every time I look in the mirror I remember 8-year-old me realizing that my lips were different because a boy I refused to kiss said that they look like those of a fish. (Don’t get me started on how everyone told me that the boy was mean to me because he liked me)

Afraid to Smack my lips

Big Forehead

I am always wearing bangs and hairstyles that hide my forehead. It is all I see when I look at my face. When I was in primary school, my teacher liked to hit me on my forehead and cracks jokes about how I had more brain because of my forehead yet I was still stupid. The sight of my forehead always gives me a slight headache. I cannot bear walking around like this sometimes. Rihanna may have made foreheads cute but I still remember the boy who was always pretending to knock on my forehead as if it was a door.

I carry my East Africanness with me

Bushy Eyebrows

I have a beautiful web of hair on my brows. I hate that the best way to describe my brows is bushy, gives a really bad connotation to it. I hate that I am made to feel second. Over the years there have been different trends on the ‘Good Brows’ that changed over and over. There was a time I spent hours plucking hair out of my brows just to get that thin strip. Now I am the brow standard but every once in a while someone asks me to tame my bush. I also often wonder how long I will be cute until I am not.

I am said to be bushy

Here are some tips that could help those girls fall in love with themselves in a cruel world like this.

  • Compliment your body part
  • Take that body part on a date or a movie night like Jane from The Bold Type did for her boobs.
  • Follow people with your body type on social media, it always helps to see them looking really good.
  • Fall in love with yourself so no one can tell you anything about your body
  • Taking good pictures of yourself so that you can look at them on days you feel less helps a lot.
  • Remember you are sexy as hell
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Do you relate to these issues? What other problems do you face?

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With Loooooove and Sunshine ๐Ÿ’–๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ’–๐ŸŒž, Jackie

11 Comments Add yours

  1. vaniheart says:

    Loving this series so far๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

  2. Silver says:

    People are so mean, it’s so unnecessary and really robs me of my hope for humanity sometimes. A lady swimmer who won gold at the Olympics for the UK, Rebecca Adlington, has faced a lot of abuse for her weight (which is fine) and her nose (which is also fine) – one comedian compared her to a dolphin! Why? Why are you like this? >:(

    1. jackie says:

      People can be really mean. I am often surprised at their audacity everytime especialy now with the rise of social media.

  3. Wonani says:

    Unrealistic beauty standards!!
    You’re cute ๐Ÿ˜โ™ฅ๏ธ

    1. jackie says:

      True Beauty standards are so unrealistic!!

      Thank you, You are cute too. ๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜

      1. Wonani says:

        Thank you ๐Ÿ’•

  4. PoojaG says:

    It’s kind of scary when you think of what is considered good looking by societies standards because it is very specific and not realistic at all. I always hated my forehead and still can’t wear my hair in certain hairstyles because I’m scared that my forehead will look gigantic. I hated my nose too. But it’s something I have been working on and learning to embrace because I have really stopped caring about what society or anyone thinks is beautiful- it really doesn’t matter as long as you know you are beautiful. Great post!

    1. jackie says:

      I often wonder who decides what is beautiful. I am yet to find an answer. True, it doesn’t matter as long as you know you are beautiful๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

      1. PoojaG says:

        I think a lot of beauty standards tend to be ethnocentric and change depending on what country you’re in.

        1. jackie says:

          Makes sense

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