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My Body Series

Hello Wild Ones💛💛💛💛

I hope you are well and that great things are happening for you. My prayer is that you know how awesome you are. I am currently really proud of how awesome I am and the dope things I continue to do.

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Body Series

This series hopes to explore issues that women face when it comes to insecurities about their bodies and societal pressures. (I was going to write just my experience then I realized that that’s just one body type) I hope this style makes sense to y’all. Feel free to go back and read other articles for this series.

Fair

When I was growing up, I always knew that ‘Fair & Lovely’ belonged to the adults, and I couldn’t wait to grow up to try it out. I just wanted so badly to know what it feels like to have this adult cream on my face. I don’t know why my cheeky self never thought about just applying it when no adult was around, but I never did. I am so glad that I never did, especially when I saw that disgusting advert where they start with a dark-skinned woman then when she applies the cream she becomes white. I cannot believe that this is the world that my mother had to live in as a dark-skinned woman. There hasn’t been much change, but at least they no longer condone colorist videos like that now on mainstream TV.

One of the weirdest compliments that I get to suggest that I look good is that I have become lighter. It was not until recently that I realized how weird that comment and how much we have internalized colorism. I am a little fair, so I wouldn’t know much about the experience of being a dark-skinned woman, but I know that most of the time that I switch on the news, I rarely see a dark-skinned woman. I have also watched as men fetishize dark-skinned women by asking to touch them to feel their melanin and calling them beautiful melanin queens on Instagram only to turn around and not look at her twice in real life and even jeer that she is dark-skinned like it’s an insult.

I am not the best person to talk about this issue since in my country I would be considered a light skin though I know I would be dark-skinned if I went to the states but you can’t talk about the body issues and not talk about the disgusting thought that skin color determines the beauty of a woman. The world also likes to choose one dark-skinned woman to hold as a token for every time that they are told they are colorists. I believe that Naomi Campbell is beautiful but the modeling industry made it hard for her and Tyra Banks to be friends but view each other as competitors. They made them feel that there was only one space for one dark-skinned woman. I admire Naomi now for making sure that dark-skinned women are not fetishized.

A recent incident on colorism would be when Elsa Majimbo talked about how the Kenyan audience had not accepted her. As much as I believe that there are more reasons why Kenyans rejected her, I found it funny that they are many men who came out saying that there is no colorism in Kenya; talk of mansplaining🌚🌚🌚. A group of men came out to talk about the experience of a dark-skinned woman like they were experts on the matter like they had walked down the street as a dark-skinned woman. “It’s the audacity for me!!!”

Here are some tips that could help women fall in love with themselves in a cruel world like this.

  • Compliment your body part
  • Take that body part on a date or a movie night like Jane from The Bold Type did for her boobs.
  • Follow people with your body type on social media, it always helps to see them looking really good.
  • Fall in love with yourself so no one can tell you anything about your body
  • Taking good pictures of yourself so that you can look at them on days you feel less helps a lot.
  • Remember you are sexy as hell

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What are the some of the challenges that dark-skinned women face?

What are some of tips to love yourself in cruel world like this?

I realize that I am not the best person to explain the experience I would appreciate your input.

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With Loooooove and Sunshine 💖🌞💖🌞, Jackie

7 Comments Add yours

  1. Ian Wachira says:

    I just enjoyed this article, even though I’m not the intended audience. I have learnt something. Thank you Jackie fo sharing awesome tips. Every lady should read this.

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you so much Ian

  2. Silver says:

    We encountered this when we lived in Thailand – to be pale is seen as being wealthy, as it means you don’t have to be out in the sun working.

    When we went shopping we encountered all sorts of whitening products at the supermarket, whitening hand creams, soaps, lotions – my sister even inadvertently bought a whitening deodorant (!). Why would you want to lighten your armpits, well, who knows?

    This sort of thing really perpetuates a nonsensical and harmful beauty standard.

    1. jackie says:

      Woow that sounds that a really bad situation. This explains why my friends who live in Thailand always lots of lotion when going back. Sometimes it feels like they only come to Kenya to buy lotion and deodorant.

  3. Lúcia.M says:

    I’ve a lot of “sweet melanin” comments on Instagram. I honestly don’t believe that they are genuine, because that’s not the treatment dark skin women get in the real world… Now so many people are getting their skin ‘bleached’, just so that people may accept them. Others use lightening creams, other pills or injections. And I think it’s sad that people have to change who they are, just so that society embraces them.

    1. Lúcia.M says:

      I’ve seen*

    2. jackie says:

      True, Instagram glorifies dark skinned women only to reject them offline. Thank you for reading💖💖💖

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