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My Body Series

I hope you are well and taking really good care of yourself. I hope you know how amazing you are and never let anyone put you down. I am currently full of hope and have a very busy schedule but I am surviving.

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Body Series

This series hopes to explore issues that women face when it comes to insecurities about their bodies and societal pressures. (I was going to write just my experience then I realized that that’s just one body type) I hope this style makes sense to y’all. Feel free to go back and read other articles for this series.


Today, Alien will be selfish and talk about my experience with hair as a black African girl with 4C hair. Alien, can you believe that these humans have the audacity to decide who is prettier based on the hair’s texture? Can you believe that sometimes it’s not even considered professional to wear our natural hair? Alien, when I leave my curls untouched sometimes, I am told to comb it out. (The audacity)

When I was in high school, I didn’t know how to take care of my 4C hair, and so by week three, my hair looked like a shabby thicket. It would shrink and then refuse to be tamed no matter what. I would walk around with a struggling bun that had my head aching all the time. I really struggled with my hair; how I never shaved it is still a wonder to me.

Texturism is real. I have watched people yearn to stroke straight hair while calling it good hair like the other types isn’t good enough. I have had to fight with hairdressers as they attempt to charge me more because of my hair type. It wasn’t until recently that people have become more interested in creating products and routines for black hair. Suddenly, everyone wants to have black hair and wear black hairstyles while renaming them (coughs in Kardashians). This is cultural appropriation because when white women wear these hairstyles, people praise them, but when black people wear them, it’s considered ghetto. There’s always the argument that black women too wear wigs and weaves, but it’s not like white women are shamed for their hair, or is it considered unprofessional in its a natural style.

Here are some tips that could help women fall in love with themselves in a cruel world like this.

  • Compliment your hair, I mean it defies gravity
  • Take that hair on a date or a movie night like Jane from The Bold Type did for her boobs.
  • Follow people with your hair type on social media, it always helps to see them looking really good.
  • Fall in love with yourself so no one can tell you anything about your body
  • Taking good pictures of yourself so that you can look at them on days you feel less helps a lot.
  • Remember you are sexy as hell


What’s your hair type and are you proud of it?

How do you take care of your hair?


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With Loooooove and Sunshine 💖🌞💖🌞, Jackie

9 Comments Add yours

  1. Msdedeng says:

    I am so happy you brought the alphabetical theme back.

    1. jackie says:

      I just hard to. It’s the easiest way to get content ideas. Glad to see that you are reading.💝💝

  2. joycengugi says:

    Glad you wrote so beautifully about hair… 😍😍
    I believe we’ve gotten to a point where people appreciate African hair more..
    And yeah… it’s been a long process

    Great post 😊

    1. jackie says:

      Yes, it’s been a long time coming though we still have a long way to go.Thank you for reading💖💖

  3. Lúcia.M says:

    I have 4C hair and I love it, with its struggles. I hardly go out with an afro because of the shrinkage, I spend the whole day avoiding water or humidity, sometimes it’s not easy🤣🤣🤣 However I’ve always loved the “magic” my hair has. Sometimes it’s so short, and after a wash and having twists on over night, it’s long again. 🤗🤗🤗

    I remember so time last year, clicks stores in South Africa and Swaziland had an advert of a hair product that showed African hair as damaged and ugly. That ad caused a riot, and people were vandalizing clicks stores around the country. Until a public apology was made.

    1. jackie says:

      4C hair is just beautiful though it demands a lot of care. It was surprising how in 2020 a brand can make such a mistake. It shows how many people deem black hair as untidy in it’s natural state.

  4. Wonani says:

    I love my 4C hair but the work it demands, I don’t exactly love 😂
    However, it’s so good to see the appreciation for a hair texture like mine.

    1. jackie says:

      I relate to this. I always get my hair in braids or cornrows because if it stays open, I might wind up cutting it.

      1. Wonani says:

        Me too!! I’ve cut it before but I’m not open to doing it again. At least not willingly lol

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