I feel vs I am

Hello Wild Ones 🌼🌼🌼

I hope you are well and doing great thing. My prayer is that you know that you are amazing and worthy. I am currently full of hope and grace for myself. The process of learning that I am perfectly imperfect is hard but worthy.

When I sit, my seemingly flat tummy gets into two rolls divided by waist beads. Sometimes I don’t think about it. Sometimes I just feel like the fattest girl in the room (I am often alone in my room)πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. My body feels is not my own. The desire to snip that big chunk of meat off me. I just hate it.

Sometimes when my friends mention about my tendency to psychoanalyze stuff, my soul feels a little broken. I feel like because they know I go to therapy, they see me as a freak. I have this crippling fear that I might be too broken for any relationship. So every time a friend says ,” You act like a therapist ” I sense they are putting me in a box for the freaks.

Notice how I say “I feel”. I am a great preacher of the your feelings are valid sermon. When you feel something, you should never ignore or gaslight yourself. But then what happens when you acknowledge that you feel ugly or broken? For me, I start to question why I feel like that. I do a five whys analysis and get to root cause of the feeling. What I am trying to learn is that just because I feel weak doesn’t mean I am weak. It’s a just a feeling. It stems from somewhere but it’s not my truth. It should be listened to and given voice but it’s not my identity. So I feel broken but I am broken. I feel unattractive but I am the sexiest woman I know.

What do you feel? What are you?


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17 Comments Add yours

  1. ChallEngEr says:

    Good jobπŸ‘πŸ‘

    1. jackie says:

      Thank youπŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’›

  2. Really needed this reminder. I’m going through a tough time and my feelings are making me awful. Anxiety is through the roof! I’m needing constant reminders. So thank you.

    1. jackie says:

      Sending love and lightπŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’› I hope you find peace.

  3. *making me feel awful

  4. judeitakali says:

    Love the positivity and realism

    1. jackie says:

      πŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’› Thank you

      1. judeitakali says:


  5. joycengugi says:

    It’s beautiful, it’s positive.

    I agree that it it is important to acknowledge what you feel. πŸ€—

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you for readingπŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’›

  6. lifeupdateme says:


    1. jackie says:


      1. lifeupdateme says:

        I am both

  7. Joel Abakah says:

    Having the clarity between what we feel we are and what we actually are is a major solution to things like doubt, low self esteem, etc. It’s also a way of fully analysing ourselves to make the needed changes and improvement.
    Thanks for sharing πŸ’š

    1. jackie says:

      True. Thank you for reading.

  8. Just because I feel weak, doesn’t mean am weakπŸ‘πŸ‘

    1. jackie says:

      Amen sis!!! Thank you for reading.

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