My Life Should Look Better on Facebook


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I hope you are well and full of hope. My desire is that great things are happening for you. I hope that you are falling in love with a dope person that I believe you are. Keep showing yourself the love that you deserve. I am also doing the same.

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My Life Should Look Better on Facebook

My brother recently asked me if I think I could be happy if I could just be content with what I have, not yearning for more, just happy with what I have. He was talked along the lines of desire and dreams, but I thought of this concept when I read this chapter. Can I be content with what I have and post on social media at it is? Lord knows how many layers of filters I use on my pictures🌚🌚🌚🌚. With rise of social media use, there has been rise in anxiety and mental health issues. More than ever women are very insecure about their bodies and getting cosmetic surgery. There is a surge in fast fashion as more people choose to buy clothes they see celebrities in.

In her book, The Defining Decade, Meg Jay writes about social media is more about keeping up with people than keeping in touch. Those who post only post highlights of their lives to announce to people their successes and milestones. While others who barely post spend their time stalking and keeping up with people. When you think about the amount of time you spend on social media, you will realize that most of the time, you are admiring people’s babies, noticing how big the ring she got is, being jealous of the promotion, and other things.

 Once you have seen your peers going off to big countries and having the time of their lives, you start to think that you have failed because the furthest you have gone all year long is outside your house to get milk. What your peer is not showing is the loan they probably took to go on that trip and the heavy editing they do on their pictures. I am not saying that people out here are not succeeding and posting on social media but know that your journey and others are not the same. Learn to love your process and take social media with a pinch of salt. One way I make sure I am not getting pressure from social media is that I made my personal account private and only let people I know and I am comfortable with follow me. Then I like to follow pages that inspire and challenge me rather than make me feel like I am not doing anything with my life even though I am just beginning. I hope you find what works for you as far as social media is concerned and that you always remember to be authentic to yourself.

I didn’t do Meg Jay’s book justice with this short analysis of this chapter, please do buy and read the book here.


How active are you on social media and how intensely do you edit your pictures?


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With Loooooove and Sunshine 💖🌞💖🌞, Jackie

8 Comments Add yours

  1. Jadwong says:

    I would like to think that I am very active on Social media, mostly IG. I do edit my pictures with Adobe Lightroom.

    I try to remind myself that my online life is just an extension of who I am. A friend always says that not posting doesn’t mean it didn’t happen or matter. And they are right. But that is the oxymoron of social media. We may not want to but we all at some point turn to social media for validation and yet we know how vain it is. Truth is not many people will care about what we post, and we have to be prepared for that. As you said, take it with a pinch of salt, comparison, depression and cyberbullying are real. We all love it when we have a plethora of likes (there are enough literature and research to explain that), but I like to think of the power of one. If just one human being can learn something, along the lines of hope and love, I can sleep well at night.

    Growing up we always had an album to show the visitors at home. I look at my IG as my album. A platform to share and spread love and hope with others.

    1. jackie says:

      I love how you think of social media is an album to share and spread love. This is such a beautiful way to look at social media. I will keep this in mind when I go to social media next time.

    2. jackie says:

      Still waiting for that post. No pressure

      1. Jadwong says:


  2. Wonani says:

    I’m not as active as I used to be on social media. Somewhere along the way I developed “social media anxiety”, if something like that exists.
    I also very rarely take pictures which I want to change because how else am I supposed to look back at things? 😂

    That definitely sounds like an interesting book to read.

    1. jackie says:

      I relate to the ‘Social Media Anxiety’ when you spend so much time on social media. It is very likely too feel like that. Thank you for reading,💖

  3. Oh yes Facebook the mythological place where fairy tails are taking on the form of reality and and where the world can be viewed through rose coloured glasses. But humanity thrives on illusion, at least there is one place where we can play out our foolishness occasionally.

    1. jackie says:

      No one could have said it better this exactly what Facebook is.

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