N for No- My No

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Hello Wild Ones,

I hope you are well and doing great things in your life. I am full of peace and joy just trying to keep the good vibes.

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Today I will just be talking about something that I have been learning in the past few weeks. We are often the product of our childhood. The people who raised us did their best with the tools they had then. It is upon us to figure the baggage and trauma they unintentionally handed down to us and fix it. When I was a kid, I hated being touched, hugged, or kissed but some members in my family thought it was cute to force a kiss or a hug on me. It was innocent but that was the first time my boundaries were violated and so many more boundaries would be crossed as I grew up. Eventually, I would be a grown woman with no practice of boundaries or the lines of what is too much and what is not. I didn’t know how to stand up for my boundaries. I just stood by and watched people cross my boundaries and take whatever they wanted. I didn’t know what I was supposed to do when my boundaries were crossed. To be honest when a boundary was crossed, I often just went along with the flow. This had me letting a guy kiss me when I had said “no”. It had me staying in a really bad situation. I just kept moving the boundaries for them. I was so used to boundary violation that when I got apologies for it, I felt so seen that I forgot that having boundaries with no consequences is like having a door with no padlock. I was basically the girl who played a little hard to get to them. Hell, I don’t even think I believed my own “no” when I said it. This attitude has put me in situations that I had no business being in. It has stolen so much from me. So now I keep my painted “No” at the entrance letting everyone know that I am a “No” bitch and I know my boundaries and there will be consequences if you cross them. ( There is, of course, a bigger conversation about this but I will leave this one here)

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Well, that was my ramble. I hope you know your boundaries and you make the people who cross them pay when they do.

In other news What am I wearing

  • My 4C with Shea butter
  • My Africa Wooden Earrings
  • My red lipstick
  • My promise rings
  • My peyote bands
  • My pink headscarf
  • My black trousers
  • My pink off-shoulder

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What are your boundaries?

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With Loooooove and Sunshine 💖🌞💖🌞, Jackie

15 Comments Add yours

  1. PoojaG says:

    Saying no can be difficult but you need to say it! It’s okay if people think you’re a bitch because that’s better than being a pushover. Also I love your shirt!

    1. jackie says:

      Yesss! This is something I am learning, it’s okay to just say without explaining yourself. Thank you !!

      1. PoojaG says:

        Yes exactly!

  2. I love your look😅
    Perhaps we all suffer from a shortcoming and once we acknowledge it, its better and wiser if we make it our strengths 😁
    People should learn their boundaries and that the consent of a person matters

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you!!! That’s a really good point.

  3. Hey Jackie hope you saw that I’ve nominated you

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you so much!!!

  4. judeitakali says:

    I’m still a soft no kind of person but it works okay most times. Took me a while to even that though. I guess when we love, no becomes hard

    1. jackie says:

      It takes a while but we get there!! Thank you for reading and engaging! Means a lot

      1. judeitakali says:

        My pleasure

  5. i love this💥

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you!!!!

  6. You’re so pretty 😍

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you!!!

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