Hello Wild Ones💝💝💝
I hope you are well and treating yourself right. You are sunshine and never let anyone dim your light. I am surviving and trying to be more active on my blog. Here’s to one day at a time!!!
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What if you are wrong?
If you are anything like me, you don’t like being wrong and your ego barely ever lets you admit when you are. It always stings when that happens, doesn’t it? I am learning to listen more and actively.
So yesterday I remembered an argument with a person on social media (I can be a keyboard warrior sometimes) like five years ago and I just realized how wrong I was. My intentions were pure but my ignorance was wanting. This was during Kenyan elections and tensions were really high. I look back at that impressionable girl and I am impressed at how much a mind can change. So I pose the question what if you are wrong? What if all that you preach and stand for is wrong? Of course, I am exaggerating. It cannot be all. But you get my point. Are you open to ideas that go against everything that you know? Are you open to explore the very things that you condemn? Are you open to understand where these people stand on the side of the fence? What if you are on the wrong side?
My experience at ALU has taught me to always challenge my thoughts. I have met people who have had ideas I condemned and listening to them gave me a new perspective. I recently saw a woman tell her story of how she willingly got circumcised. This was an educated woman who had lived in the states for most of her life. She came back to Africa, to get the procedure done. My first reaction was to decide that she is brainwashed and ignorant. Then when I watched her interviews and I had a lot to learn from this. While I still believe that FGM is harmful and has no health benefit to women but listening allowed me to humanize, validate and respect her story. If you know me, you know that I am really bad at this especially if the topic elicits deep emotions.
There is a class that I once took where when you are arguing with someone, you are expected to ask questions to understand where they are coming from. You are not to strive to explain your side but try to understand their side. I am learning and challenging myself to be a better argumentative person. I will not stop being argumentative 😂😂😂😂😂😂 because some of y’all have some crazy ideas that I must try understand before trying to challenge. Although I will still call you out sometimes. Sometimes I will have no time to package the message with love because some y’all are just weird e.g. This guy who was declaring that his future wife must give birth natural birth with no epidural or anything like he will do the pushing. (Major Side Eye)
My name is Jackline Wanjira Njagi and I rebuke my know it all attitude. I choose to believe that I don’t know much. I put my biases to the test and admit that I am only a flawed human. I am willing to learn. I am willing to hear you even though we disagree. I have empathy for certain situations and humanize them while still disagreeing. I am growing. I am changing. It is beautiful.
What if you are wrong?
With loooove and sunshine