What If you are wrong

Hello Wild Ones💝💝💝

I hope you are well and treating yourself right. You are sunshine and never let anyone dim your light. I am surviving and trying to be more active on my blog. Here’s to one day at a time!!!

Today’s Commercial Break

What If you are wrong
Made with love on Canva

What if you are wrong?

If you are anything like me, you don’t like being wrong and your ego barely ever lets you admit when you are. It always stings when that happens, doesn’t it? I am learning to listen more and actively.

So yesterday I remembered an argument with a person on social media (I can be a keyboard warrior sometimes) like five years ago and I just realized how wrong I was. My intentions were pure but my ignorance was wanting. This was during Kenyan elections and tensions were really high. I look back at that impressionable girl and I am impressed at how much a mind can change. So I pose the question what if you are wrong? What if all that you preach and stand for is wrong? Of course, I am exaggerating. It cannot be all. But you get my point. Are you open to ideas that go against everything that you know? Are you open to explore the very things that you condemn? Are you open to understand where these people stand on the side of the fence? What if you are on the wrong side?

My experience at ALU has taught me to always challenge my thoughts. I have met people who have had ideas I condemned and listening to them gave me a new perspective. I recently saw a woman tell her story of how she willingly got circumcised. This was an educated woman who had lived in the states for most of her life. She came back to Africa, to get the procedure done. My first reaction was to decide that she is brainwashed and ignorant. Then when I watched her interviews and I had a lot to learn from this. While I still believe that FGM is harmful and has no health benefit to women but listening allowed me to humanize, validate and respect her story. If you know me, you know that I am really bad at this especially if the topic elicits deep emotions.

There is a class that I once took where when you are arguing with someone, you are expected to ask questions to understand where they are coming from. You are not to strive to explain your side but try to understand their side. I am learning and challenging myself to be a better argumentative person. I will not stop being argumentative 😂😂😂😂😂😂 because some of y’all have some crazy ideas that I must try understand before trying to challenge. Although I will still call you out sometimes. Sometimes I will have no time to package the message with love because some y’all are just weird e.g. This guy who was declaring that his future wife must give birth natural birth with no epidural or anything like he will do the pushing. (Major Side Eye)

My name is Jackline Wanjira Njagi and I rebuke my know it all attitude. I choose to believe that I don’t know much. I put my biases to the test and admit that I am only a flawed human. I am willing to learn. I am willing to hear you even though we disagree. I have empathy for certain situations and humanize them while still disagreeing. I am growing. I am changing. It is beautiful.

********************

What if you are wrong?

🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼

Today’s Tip

What If you are wrong
From Pinterest by Gracious Quotes

********************

With loooove and sunshine

Jackie

17 Comments Add yours

  1. always keep an open mind and a restless heart!

    1. jackie says:

      Yessss 🥰🥰

  2. makagutu says:

    this, my friend, is where learning begins. to be aware that you could be wrong or misguided about certain things that you hold dear. and no need to rebuke yourself. the admission is more than enough.

    1. jackie says:

      Yeah. Thank you for reading and your insight.

  3. Silver says:

    A very interesting question.

    I think it really depends on the context of what you’re listening to, and how it’s being discussed. Your example of someone discussing that they voluntarily came to be circumcised and how they justify it for instance, I would find quite hard to even start listening to, let alone listen to sincerely, because it’s so far beyond anything I consider acceptable, even when someone chooses to submit to it voluntarily.

    But hey, we all make mistakes! If we can learn from them gracefully, then it’s always a lesson well learnt.

    1. jackie says:

      I think we all have things we would struggle actively listening to

      1. Silver says:

        I think that’s very true.

  4. ashok says:

    Proud of you Jackie.
    All of us are Work in Progress 😇

    1. jackie says:

      Yes we are. Thank you for reading.

      Love and light to you Ashok

  5. Beaton says:

    I try to keep an open my mind and as an empath I strive to understand where someone is coming from….
    We can’t ever really know what we think we know, let alone what we don’t know,
    And we could be wrong ha
    ~B

    1. jackie says:

      Very true. There’s so much that we don’t know and there’s a possibility you could be wrong.

      Thank you for reading and commenting.💛💛

  6. There is not much to add to, you are young, this is all about testing out your strength! In your age it is natural to be pensioned about your convictions and voice your opinions, even so, you are not always convinced that you are right. There is no need to apologise for it; it is the prerogative of the young!
    If we would be already wise from birth on what would be the point of living a long life?
    However one does realise with time gone by, that if one knows one has no need to argue. Take care!

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you for the wise words as always

  7. Wow! Sounds like me,

    1. jackie says:

      I am glad you can relate. Thank you for reading.

      Okungu💖💖💖💖💖 heeey, How have you been. Long time.

  8. beinglefenyo says:

    Lol 😂 Jackie; I love this! Your self awareness is truly awe inspiring.

    1. jackie says:

      Thank you💜💜

I appreciate your opinion!!! Leave a comment!!