Hello Wild Ones🔥 🔥 🔥 ,
I hope you are well and doing great things. My prayer is that you are loving on yourself and taking good of yourself. I am currently full of hope and dreams.
This was among the first posts that I thought of writing when I started this blog. Back then I had tried therapy and it hadn’t worked. I knew I needed professional help coping but I was sure if I wanted to see a therapist again. Back then I just wanted process, I was so against something I desperately needed. Now I am just reflecting on that time when I was afraid to go to therapy.
People often associate going therapy with being broken. I was afraid to go to therapy because it would be admitting that I am weak. There’s so much pressure especially among Africans to be strong. I even remember the first time I had tried therapy, I told this boy I liked about it and he responded “A strong African Woman like you is going to therapy??” I remember feeling really broken and discouraged about ever trying to therapy. Now I can tell that therapy doesn’t mean you are broken, it just means that you need help. It’s the same as going to a doctor or taking a painkiller. Going to therapy is a form of self care.
Some Stranger will tell you what to do
You are probably afraid to go to therapy because you don’t understand the role of a therapist. There’s this belief that therapists will come listen to your life story and then tell you what to fix and what’s wrong. Well, yes and no. In my experience, the therapist takes you through exercises that lead you to discover certain things about yourself. My therapist only offered insight when I was stuck. Coming to realization about certain in things by my own terms had a long lasting effect. I would never trade that experience for anything.
Healing is a long painful journey. Therapy might have you reliving trauma that you have long buried. It can be very scary to admit that you are in pain. Even scarier to admit that you have to hold certain people accountable for your pain and often you are part of those people. If you are struggling to decide because of this know that it hurts the most before it heals. It’s okay to be afraid to go to therapy, just don’t let fear keep you from shining your light.
I am privileged to be in a position to be able to see a therapist. Some people cannot afford the price of therapy and most insurance companies don’t cover it. This is tragic because very many people need the service. Some companies like Red Cross offer this free services however it’s not exactly quality. There are also therapists with really good content on YouTube, Instagram and Pinterest. I don’t have specific people that consume content from since I just make sure that all my social media feed has content that nourishes my mental health. I often just search “coping mechanisms”, ” self healing “, ” self love’, “Mental health ” etc.
As I mentioned, when I first tried therapy, it didn’t work out. Therapy is like paying to have a friend.Sometime people just don’t click. I believe this is what happened with my first therapist hence the bad experience. I also had high expectations where I thought after two sessions I would be okay. Well, I wasn’t. So I got very frustrated and left. When I got a therapist I related to and felt more comfortable with and this time I was more patient, the results were better.
Whats is the reason you don’t want to go to therapy?
With looove and hope,