You might wonder why I am talking about love in your twenties when you are supposed to be thinking about your career and business but listen.
Sometimes dark days creep on us in ways that we cannot foresee. Sometimes we can’t even tell. How do you know you are not okay?
I am learning to add romantic love as part of my dreams and not something that I get to after being the great person I am meant to be. I am learning to permit myself to say that I have it all. I can have all that I have dreamed of.
Having these days where you feel like you are less doesn’t mean that you have fallen. It just that you are human, and it’s okay to have bad days. It’s okay to feel unattractive sometimes. It’s okay to have body insecurities sometimes.
In her book, ‘The Defining Decade’, Meg Jay emphasizes that when you claim a path, you are not settling but starting. It is important to realize that you are different everywhere you go.
What if there is no such thing as bad vibes? Maybe it’s just messages that we are not ready to have with ourselves, others, and society in general. Ask yourself why someone makes you so uncomfortable.
I mean the person you marry will have so much power over your dreams, goals, finances, peace and even health. If you have kids with them then you are stuck with them for life. I read on this on ‘The Defining Decade’ and I can’t seem to stop thinking about this fact.
Society has a habit of blaming the victim so much that women are trained to behave a certain way to prevent themselves from being sexually harassed or assaulted which only makes men feel justified to be this disgusting.
‘Shoulds’ masquerade themselves as goals or high standards. Shoulds feel like obligations and like we have to do them because we should. They are not authentic at all.
I have been looking at myself and my behavior towards certain people in my life and I wondered if I was a simp. I did that test, I am the Queen of Simpness. I could start a school on simping.